Here is a particularly grim take on aging in place:
If you have bought into the idea that aging in place in the home you’ve maintained for 30+ years is the best answer to the question of where to live as you age, I can only conclude that you have decided it’s payback time for your children. Did your own parents live into their late 80s and 90s? Did they age in place? If so, how did that work out for you?
Of course, aging in place is not for everyone. If you’re approaching your retirement years with diminished physical or mental capacity, you will want to consider moving into an environment such as an assisted living community, or having regular in-home assistance.
But, and “but" is doing a lot of work here, if you are mentally and physically fit and like living on your own, you may want to keep the status quo for as long as you can. There is all sort of technology now that can help you do that.
The turning point? When you become a burden to your family. But here’s the tricky part: you’ll probably know that you’re a burden before your family will tell you. You just can’t be afraid to admit it to yourself. And then it’s time to make some changes. Don’t wait until it’s too late to do that gracefully.
You haven’t failed, you’ve simply made a better choice.